Do you feel that you and your partner have trouble communicating? Do you feel you have the same fight over and over again. Do you remember a time in your relationship where you felt more fulfilled, heard, and appreciated? Do you feel frustrated by having to ask for what you need or by repeatedly respond to the same complaints.

Communication problems are what bring couples to therapy more than anything else. I find that beyond communication, people struggle to feel empowered to get what they need out of their marriages, or to be understood and appreciated..

I help couples see the pattern of their conflicts, and to understand their own needs and feelings. I help couples change their usual conflicts, and better reach their partners. I help wives and husbands feel heard and teach them skills they can use to feel more empowered.

I use attachment based practices and I operate on several assumptions about couples that I own from the first meeting. First, I believe that our fundamental human nature is to love. I believe that we are all driven by a desire to love and connect with those whom we love, though I also believe that along the way, life gives us reasons to worry or reactwhen we try to love an other.

Second, I believe that every wife or girlfriend, and every husband and boyfriend want to be a good partner. I believe that people get married all the time with sincere intentions to uphold their vows, "to love and to cherish".

Third, while people want to be good partners, and that our fundamental nature is to love, I believe it's hard to figure out how to love and cherish our partners. When you get into a relationship you don't get a user's manual for your partner. Further more, there is no updated and annotated "Standard Rules and Regulations for North American Marriage and relationships". When we get together with someone we fall in love with we're all trying to figure it out ourselves.

Communication problems are what we all run into when we don't feel that love from our partner the ways we feel we should get it, or when we're trying to love our partners the best we can and feel dismissed. I help couples hear with a different understanding and speak with a different voice.